Hopes,Dreams,Aspirations!

We're all doing something that we are keen about. You know,as you're growing up,people say,"Do what makes you happy.","Take up extra curricular",etc.

As we start becoming young adults,we're treated like horses.
Yes,Horses. We start getting tamed by adults who think they know what's best for you.
I've come across people who are being pressured by parents ,into becoming Doctors,Lawyers,etc.
Yes,it still happens in today's world.
Our country still comprises of parents who tell their children one of these three things:
1. Government Servant.
2. White Coat.
3. Black Coat.

Yes,i do believe that every parent wants a secure future for their child.
But temme one thing, is it worth doing something that you don't put your heart into?

A good friend of mine,wanted to go to a University in London,to pursue Performing Arts.
To be honest,i'd not really come across someone as passionate as him. His zeal,Enthusiasm that was felt towards his passion,was more than inspiring.
But,i suppose no one could stop reality from taking over.
His father refused and he was supposed to pursue a degree in management and join his dad.

Yes, Business is a pretty safe option,but i saw his heart break when his father refused to let him pursue his passion.

I know most of us want to pursue careers that involve our passion! Singing,Dancing,Football,Art,Gymnastics,Tennis,Photography,etc.
But we are usually told to be more practical in life. 
Why? Why do we have to be "Practical".

I mean,aren't singers doing well. Aren't dancers and artists,and Photographers securing their future ?!
Why do parents,especially in a country such as ours,want us to become standard things?

If you're a parent,and you're reading this, LET your child decide what he\she wants to do!
You may watch your child fail,fall,tumble. But at the end of it,your child will learn and grow from this experience!

If you're a child,and you're reading this, TAKE a STAND for what you believe in.
You don't live to impress others. You must learn ,that you live to impress yourself!
Believe that if you fail today,you can try again and succeed tomorrow.

I'm a lucky child to have got the opportunity to dream big and pursue whatever i like. And i'm grateful to my parents for always being supportive of my decisions.

So,take a step today! Make a move towards what you really desire. 
People may shun your ideas and call you a complete nutcase.
But then again,all the people who started from the bottom and reached the top,were wackos at first !
Haha,Peace! 

A Friend Indeed!

"I won't always be around"
This is what my bestfriend told me about two days ago.

I sat down,for about three straight hours and thought about it.
All of us are not emotional. I know people who are thick skinned,people who learn the art of hiding their feelings,killing them; People who face things in life that make them strong enough to avoid emotional drama.
But there are two sides to a coin.
There are people who are highly sensitive,they get emotional very quick;it takes 1 second for them to turn sad.

You can't avoid all this. This is a part of everyone's life.
To be honest, i was a semi emotional person...till i lost my father.
I realized that i could behave however i wanted because i knew,that my father is there to cushion me with happiness. 
I mean,i'd run to him if someone said something and he always knew the right words to say.
Since i know he isn't around,i've become less emotional.
Cuz i honestly don't know who to look up to when i do something wrong,or someone says something to me. Mom is there,true. But you know,dad and i shared a bond.

So the other night,when my best bud said that he wasn't always going to be there for me,i got down to some thinking.
You can't always hold on to a person. No matter how close you are to that person,no matter how many friends say they will stand by you "ALWAYS",no matter how many say "i'm just a call away",At the end of the day,it's only you who's gonna look in that mirror in your room,you who's gonna sleep alone in bed,you who's gonna travel to places alone and it's only you who you have forever.

To be honest,that night when he said it,i was devastated. 
But now that i think about it,i realize that he was there with me ever since i lost my dad.
He was the one i looked up to for guidance.
And probably today,i realized so much because of him.
I'm glad he said that  to me ,cuz not many people speak the truth and not many people have the strength to accept the harsh fact of life.

How many people do you think you'll be in touch with after you graduate?
And if you do,how many will you meet?
Think about it,not many.
So,i know i have a long journey. And that i can look up to him for guidance,but i need to be strong enough,become wise enough to stand my decisions with complete firmness.
Thankyou for the lesson,my friend.
God bless!

Victimization - OVER!

There are days.
Unexpected days,joyful days.
Days when you just wanna smile.
When you wanna stand tall,stay strong.
When you wanna be brave.
And then,there are days,when you wanna give up.
When you wanna rip your heart out.


And somewhere along the line,comes a day when you're scared,alone. You feel like there is nothing and you're falling apart.

We all face these types of days,and we all question lord,"haven't i suffered enough ? Why me? Honestly!"

You reach a point where you're just done with misery.
And to be very honest,i've reached that stage.
I feel that,since July 24th, i've been pushed against a wall.
And ever since,it feels like i'm being pushed more and more,and MORE.

And today,the 12th of oct,i came to this sudden realization.
Holding on to memories is alright,but reliving them over and over again,just makes you divert your concentration from your present.
So I took a deep breath,
Closed my eyes. Thought of my Dad and realized. He wouldn't want me to while away time.
He wouldn't want me to behave like a "VICTIM" in any situation.
Instead he'd want me to Stand tall,and turn even the worst of situations,in my favor.
I pictured myself hugging him for the last time at the airport and i nurtured the last kiss on my forehead.

 I've just reached this stage where i wanna look up to the sky and say,"You know what ?Bring it on. You think i'm worthy enough to face this,i'm just gonna beat you at your own game."

So yeah! Now on,anything that heads my way,i'm gonna face it like a warrior and not stand down and question god "why me?!"

Tough times create tough people. Irrespective of their past!
Face everything,become the stronger,better,powerful version of you! xx

Choose,cuz you have the choice

Pain.

Agonizing pain.
Have you ever felt like you're gonna fall and not be able to get back up?
Have you ever felt like pain rushing all over your body?
Have you felt,at any point of time,that the agonizing pain and suffering,seems worse than death itself?!

Well,i have.
Not to exaggerate,but i've gone through such pain for the second time.
Last Sunday,i felt immense pain in my body. My left kidney,to be precise(but i was completely unaware about the fact that it was my kidney causing the pain)
The pain completely took over me. I couldn't lie down,couldn't eat,could only puke,and walking decreased the pain. But because i kept vomiting,i had no energy left.

I got two injections,which i don't think,really helped me.
The following morning,my pain subsided.(AMEN)
But cuz it was a kidney stone and it came out without surgery,an infection spread and i became weak.
I caught the cold,and the fever that i obtained,was rather very fluctuating,that too to the high borders.
Saline bottles,injections,antidotes..so many things that i've come across,that i never had.

I got home 2 days ago. What an eventful week. 
My point is,that in all of this,i've realized something. Something big.

Pain is something we all are bound to go through. Sometimes pain,gets amplified and the only escape out of it all,is either to run away,or give up your life.
But there's always two ways to a situation,as there are two sides to a coin.
You can choose to be anything you want- Brave & Strong OR Daring yet Cowardly.
At the end of the day,what you need to realize is,that you are the one who is going to live that journey. Your decision may influence people or even try to traumatize them. But you're the one who's going to be affected the most.

Start caring for yourself. Tell yourself,everyday,that it's you who's living your life. Live it,don't end it. 
Face pain,horror,suffering. At least you won't regret it.

Grow! Form and Grow

ANXIETY. 


A very strong word and an even stronger emotion.
Most of us aren't cognizant enough to realize it or face it.
So is this one emotion given so much importance?

Anxiety,in lay man's language is basically "FEAR".
Before we do anything in life,anything at all. Be it as simple as crossing the road,or as complicated as driving up a hill in the middle of a downpour.

Yes,it's pretty natural to feel this emotion.
I remember how confident i was,about my singing. But right before i had to go up on stage,a billion thoughts would cross my mind. "Would i choke? What if i faint? Or barf? Or forget the words? What if people don't like it?" et cetera,are just a few examples.

Stats state,that it is natural to feel fear before doing anything.
During the summer of 2012,i went through the worst case of anxiety.
Getting into college. YES!
The thing is,you're under a lot of pressure. Pressure of scoring well,making parents proud,getting into the desired college,scholarship,approval of many things,SAT /GMAT scores,et cetera !
Yes, I know there are a billion people out there,who probably aim for the same thing,and that,in a very small percentage lowers your chance of attaining your desired goal.
But you know,no one great reached anywhere they are,without anxiety.

Yes,as much as we think of it as a demotivating factor,we must also try to look at it as a morale booster.
Sure,your destination is something a lot of people would like to acquire. But what makes you unique? Your confidence! Your confidence doesn't only mean what you show to the world.
Look inside. Keep telling yourself you're confident and worthy of what you want.
Instead of looking for materialistic things or people's reviews on lowering your anxiety levels,tell yourself you're so capable that no one can take away what you've got your eyes on.

"Fear is good. It means you're aiming at something big. Confidence is a friend. Learn to believe in yourself. Words can pacify you for the moment,but only you have the power to kill your fears."

Go ahead,stay strong. Become so confident of yourself,that the world sees you in a good light.
Peace xx

Make Memories Count !

You never understand pain,until you face it.
You never understand grief,until you go through it.
You never understand hell,until you breathe in it.
And You never understand life,until you live it.

Today,i understood the meaning of this statement. 
I truly understood it.
"You take things for granted when you know they're around. Only when they're gone,do you really feel the loss."

I sat through a treacherous class today(nothing new). And suddenly,my phone flashed,and for a moment,i could have sworn it said "Dad"(incoming call).
I immediately reached out to pick up my phone and realized it was my grand father calling.

I realize that most of you out there,may not live with your parent/parents.
For your own reasons - maybe cuz your parents split,or you felt like going you seperate way,or just cuz you don't want your parents in your hair.
Most of you out there don't talk to your parents,don't communicate. And unfortunately when you do,it's either about money or permission for something.

What most of you don't realize is,that you have the privilege to pick up your phone,at anytime of the day,and talk to your parent.
Most of us(boys/girls),mostly look up to our dads for advice.
And most of you are certainly privileged to be able to do that.

I've come across people who despise their fathers - For their own reasons. But you know the occasional "Hey dad,how you doin'? Yeah,i'm Good too. Well,...I miss you. K,ummmm.....Take care,alright?! Bye!",never gets old. And you kinda like the fact that you have a dad behind you when you need him.

It's been about 50 days. No,doesn't feel like it. I can still feel him calling out my name and asking me to hug him. I can still feel that kiss on my forehead before he left. I still remember our telephone conversations like it was just yesterday i asked him to let me take the car out. And it feels like just yesterday that i kissed his forehead for the last time,before he left.

Many of you take this real lightly. And i know many of you are detached children. Well, you're missing out on quite a bit. 
Start today,get to know your parent/parents.
It's never too late to learn about them and their past.
Eighteen years weren't quite enough for me to get to know my dad.
Unfortunately,i have no choice but to live without him.
But if you don't,go get to know your parent. Spend a lil extra time with them,for when they leave you and go away,probably you may not have memories.
So go,smile,eat icecream,and make memories with your family.
Blessed be xx
 

Focus On The Now

We live in a world filled with happiness,love,war & despair.
We come across a million kinds of people - arrogant,asinine,dreamers,believers,realists,etc.

But you know what kind of problem we all face?
The present!

Most of us either live in the past,or in the future.
Sounds silly,doesn't it? 
But believe me,most of us live our lives by this very statement,which should be counted as a fact!

Do not dwell in the past,
 do not dream of the future,
 concentrate the mind on the present moment.
-buddha

So most of us can't let go off the past,and most of us can't wait to reach our future.
Ask yourself,why?
Why does your present not impress you so much that you either prefer to appreciate it when it becomes the "past" and you look at it from your "future".
I hear a lot of people saying "live in the moment",but fail to do so.
Sad. Go out,and do what makes you smile.
Don't wait for tomorrow!
Think of it this way,If you get icecream,and you don't have a freezer,it'll melt if you don't eat it.
Do you expect it to wait till tomorrow without melting? NO.

See,we all have a common problem which is "we think we have time,but we actually don't."
You never know what tomorrow will bring you. Death may knock you out unconscious even before you could say "give me another chance."
It isn't only death,bad fortune,ill will,et cetera,can strike any moment.

Biggest example is this:
"when we're kids we dread going to school and being a child. We're in complete awe of adults and the way they live their so called 'carefree' lives. But when we actually reach that stage,we realize that our overprotected,sheltered past was something we truly should have valued more at that time."
You can't go back to the past,and you can't waste today running behind the faint possibility of tomorrow being better.
Live in the now,make the most of it.
Make a strong imprint. 
Smile everyday,and yeah, appreciate the life you have.
Yours may seem bad at the moment,but its always darkest before the dawn.
Peace xx