Love,Just.

"Sometimes,when two people love each other,everything seems easy.
Life isn't all about that. It's way more complicated and so is love.
If you love someone dearly,you have to someday part.
Only to see if the love you share,will someday break all conflicts and bring you'll back together.
Cuz,at the end of the day,it's the bond that you share,that keeps you going,no matter the distance"

So,everyone feels that these relationships that last forever,have some element that keeps them bound together.
Well,i was living in that delusion as well!
All the people that fall into my age category,are or might have experienced love atleast once.
So,i asked my bestfriend the other day,"How have you sustained a good relationship with your boyfriend for 4 years,despite the distance?"
She replied saying,"Love isn't something that keeps you together. Yes,we do have our fair share of fights,but at the end of the day,it's the willingness to be with the person,that keeps us strong."

When she told me this,i got down to thinking.
Is it so ?
What is "love"?
Is it just a word,we give to something that you feel strongly towards a person?
Is it something that you name when you're willing to be there for a person?
Or is it affection?
What is it?
Cuz honestly,i love my cats! I really love them! But love has different meanings.
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I have friends who i treat like family. I love them as well. I fight with them as well.
Yes,we have our own opinions towards a billion things,and apparently,this is where the problem starts!

Opinions. 
When two dominating people come together,the relationship is hard to sustain. 
Because neither of them is willing to change.
It's tough,cuz you love this person,with all that you are. 
And the feelings are reciprocated.
But it's hard. 
No,it isn't wrong to believe in what you do.
But,people have to change. Not only because of/for  love.
But,because that's the way life is.
Change is constant. Doesn't mean you change people everyday,but you change yourself and live peacefully.

Remember,change is constant. Even if you have two dominating people,both must change.
Love is eternal,not something that is conditional.
Don't confuse life with all of this. 
Life gets in the way of love and vice versa.

And you are?

"You are what you eat"
This is a saying,i've heard over the past few years.
I never really understood it,till i saw people becoming rounder by the day at the local sweets shop.

Haha.
But i did however realize something different.
"You are become who you stay with."
Lately,I've observed many people getting into relationships.
And the changes i've observed,are pretty much absurd..!

For instance,I have an old college friend,who i'm still in contact with.
This girl has gone from dumb,to dope,to rogue,and now she's a dumb blonde.
And surprisingly,the number of times she has changed her attitude,has directly happened after getting into a relationship with a new boy.
Wow,imagine,changing four times in 2 years.

Another example is of a girl,i practically see every single day.
She went from trying to fit in,completely phased out,jerkish,and then all of a sudden,went all silent.
And now,she's in a relationship with a boy who influences her so much,that the language she uses is horrifying,pathetic,uncouth and utterly despicable.
Sad.
This girl was once a person i could actually talk to.
And today,i choose silence over making conversation with her.

What many women do not realize is,that it is fine to give your undivided attention to your man.
But please,ladies,set your standards a little high?
Why are you willing to change men like seasons ?
Why are you willing to change your lifestyle to such an extent that you start talking crassy.
Why can you just not find people who are bearable ?
If other people can't stand him,there must be a reason behind it. Why would you wanna change yourself for a man who cannot change for the world?

This doesn't only influence your lifestyle and living standards,but also your speech.
Please,for christ's sake,DO NOT become who you are with.
Men like it when you listen to them. And if they claim to like you (or love you) enough,they won't allow you to change yourself for the worse.
So please,hold on to who you are.
You are a unique individual. Do not emulate another human being.

Under the veil

"She masks her Pain,In a glorious Veil.
A veil so thick,nothing gets through it.

She wasn't always like this,
The girl i once knew.
She was chirpy,bright and always smiled.
Smiled so wide,it felt unrealistic,
To see someone so happy,
All the time!

She was always childish,is what people said.
Nothing would make her change,is what she said.
She meant it,when she said it.
But who knew,fate had other plans brewing.

She was hit by a storm,on a late summers eve.
The girl i once knew,didn't seem the same to me.
She changed slowly and then all at once.
It was a transformation,no one ever thought of.

'Did change have to knock at my doorstep this way',she yelled out loud.
'Did i deserve this pain',she bawled to the crowd.
She knew she'd never be the same.
She knew this was a big change.

She masked her pain,with a gorgeous smile.
A smile so fake,it stayed there for a while.
And while she kept convincing the world,
That "everything is alright,i'm fine!"
At night she'd lay in bed and cry.
It killed her day by day,inside.
She knew that she was living a lie.

She felt that this was just existence.
'A life worth living?' ,is what she questioned.
The girl who loved the rain once,
Hated the sight of the slightest drizzle.
And when her brave smile couldn't take it,
she sat under the shower and waited.
Waited for it to become audible enough,
So that no one outside could hear her bawl in pain.
The cold water gushed at her with ease.
Hitting her skin,not so gently.
She let the water hit her,
While she gasped for air.
And kept thinking over and over again.

"Did i do the right thing,by not giving up?"
"Did i do the wrong thing,by trying to live it up?"
Her mind and heart,were in constant battle.
And there her smile kept faking it a little longer.

This powerful veil,kept getting stronger.
Her sorrows and pains,weren't staying longer.
She longed to smile, and feel the rain.
But the veil was so powerful,it wouldn't fade away."


-Prateeksha Malik

Complexity ?

Being in a relationship isn't as easy as it seems.

You know.initially,i thought being in a relationship was easy stuff.
You know,"I love you,You love me." that kinda story.

Well,i was COMPLETELY,ABSOLUTELY,MOST CERTAINLY A 100% wrong.
It's been about 4 months i've been in a relationship,and to be honest,i'm the only one who seems to be messing up.
And it kills me!

You won't believe it,but i used to think being in a relationship is a piece of cake - easy to dig into.
But what i didn't realize is that relationships are like cakes,yes. But not ready made ones!

You have to make them from scratch. 
You have to go through rough phases! Maybe it'll be sour,or sweet. None the less,you have to bake it yourself,right ?
If you want results,you work towards them.

And in the past few days,i've got this "relationship 101",from a wise person.
My mom. 
You know,i've realized that life through another person's eyes,is completely different.
When you look at life through another person's perspective,you realize so much.

What's more is,when you look at yourself through another person's eyes!
You realize how wrong you are and in how many ways you have or could hurt this person.

I suppose i never really thought my actions would hurt my partner.
But the other day,i did something wrong and i didn't understand why it hurt him so much.
But when i thought about it and looked at it from his perspective.
And i thought to myself,"Oh good lord,I've fucked up real bad."

It's then that i realized that it isn't as easy as it seems. 
And it's gonna take time to work towards it.
But then again.,isn't that love?
Working together,eliminating unwanted things,and finally reaching a sweet sweet outcome?

So yeah, I've learnt the following :
1.Think about how your decisions will affect the other person.
2.How will this affect your future with the other person!
3. YOU NEED TO PAY ATTENTION TO THE OTHER PERSON. YOU'RE NOT THE ONLY PERSON IN THE RELATIONSHIP.
4.Eliminate unwanted people.

That's The relationship 101.
Well,i still have a 97 other things to learn. But this should be a good start,right ?
Go fall in love and perfect your relationships everyone!
Blessed be xx

Them Theories

It's an ancient myth,that humans were actually creatures with 4 legs,4 arms,2 heads!
Lord Zeus,became fearful bout' what might happen,if these creatures were to take over. 
So,he split each into two halves,two separate identities sharing one soul.
And he said,that these 'split humans',were to spend the rest of their lives trying to find their other half,hence 'Soul-Mate'.

To be honest,i never believed in all this. I read about it,and stored it as extra knowledge.
So,many of you,who know me,personally or through my blog,know that i'm only 19.
So,if you think what i'm about to say is completely immature of me,well,to each his own.

Patience. Understanding. Clear observation.
These are the three tools i used to find me my soul-mate.
Haha,i know what you're thinking!
"WHAT! What a big bag of bull","ain't she too young?",and something that i get QUITE often- "Won't last more than a year."

You see,in today's fast paced world,everyone is speeding by life's simple joys!
People are so used to others hooking up one day,and breaking up the other!
Sad,sad circle.

You know,honestly,it's alright if you judge me or say that i'm wrong.
But believe me, Women,guys are still out there. Guys who'll respect you for who you are.
No,Disney isn't wrong for the happy endings they go around putting at the end of each film they produce!
They leave out a few subtle details,yes. But yes,happy endings do exist.
Love does exist.
And age is just a number.

According to society,falling in love at this age is stupid because "OH MY GOD",you're just kids.
Ummm,HELLO! we're kids,yes!
We like each others company,yes!
WE ARE NOT PLANNING ON ELOPING,THANKYOU VERY MUCH!

I think all society needs is a new outlook to everything,cuz honestly,the major reason why we don't fall in love is because we're too busy wondering how our parents would react and how society would react to the situation!

Look,love can be sure or uncertain. But if you're sure and you're giving your 100%,why be scared,ae?
I mean parents are not out to ruin your life. They care!
If you're reading this,and you're dating someone and if you have any ounce of respect for yourself and your parents. Man\Woman up and tell your parents.
Like they say,"If you dare to love,why not tell atleast the relevant people in your life."

Oh,i'd like to end this long post by saying,everybody i hope you're out there,falling in love! 
Be it a mirror,or furniture,a human,an animal,a car!
Anything! Just give your heart a break! Cut it some slack! 
God bless

The Unknown

Uncertainty.
It strikes at any given moment.
Does death knock at your door? Yes. 
Apparently,it's been going around for a very long time,that death always comes,announced.

Now,you can't blame anyone if you choose to deliberately ignore the signs.
And then go right ahead and say,"Oh,death comes unannounced.
Sure it does. You know why?
Cuz you IGNORE IT!

Uncertainty,unfortunately make up most of the unforgettable memories.
How sad,yet true.

 

LIFE. 

Is as fragile and vulnerable like a stem glass.

In all its beauty and glory,it tends to attract people and make an impression on them.

And all of a sudden,it comes to an end.

Then what are you left with?

Nothing. 

You're left with memories. 

Or

You simply

Become a memory.

A new chapter - 19th

Hola!
I'm back! 
My apologies for being so slack and not putting up anything,in what seems like forever!

I had my examinations going on!(bleh)
So,Daybefore yesterday,17th jan,I turned 19.
Yes! As old as that makes me sound.
Quite an amazing day,actually. Started off with tears,cuz i realized,daddy isn't around,and he won't be.
But i'd like to take this opportunity to thank my mom,for being sucha kickass mother. 
For not letting me feel the absence of my father dearest.
She's been so supportive. I understand how weak she is,but when i needed her,she did a better job than anyone ever could.
"It takes a good mother to take care of a child,But it takes a badass mom to be a mom and dad."
This gorgeous lady,i'm glad she's a part of my life. I love her so very much and i thank god every day for letting me keep atleast one of my parents.

My dad used to call my mom "Cheetah."
While growing up,i used to call my mother "Mom,Mommy,Mumma."
But over the years,I started calling her "Sushikins." (No reference to sushi)
But lately,i realized it was getting too old,and i started calling her cheetah.
I know that name brings back a lotta memories,but they're good memories,that make her smile.

Sometimes,when you love someone so much that even for the slightest grin,you'd do anything.
I'm grateful for being her daughter.

Also,my 19th embarks a new beginning. I realized that my 18th had been one heck of a roller coaster ride. 
I had not only been hurt,but i also have hurt,and made a lot of mistakes. 
But over time,i suppose one just learns to deal with circumstances and learn from their mistakes.

Well,I'd also like to thank all the people who wished me and gave me their blessings. Each and everyone counts. Thankyou <3