And you are?

"You are what you eat"
This is a saying,i've heard over the past few years.
I never really understood it,till i saw people becoming rounder by the day at the local sweets shop.

Haha.
But i did however realize something different.
"You are become who you stay with."
Lately,I've observed many people getting into relationships.
And the changes i've observed,are pretty much absurd..!

For instance,I have an old college friend,who i'm still in contact with.
This girl has gone from dumb,to dope,to rogue,and now she's a dumb blonde.
And surprisingly,the number of times she has changed her attitude,has directly happened after getting into a relationship with a new boy.
Wow,imagine,changing four times in 2 years.

Another example is of a girl,i practically see every single day.
She went from trying to fit in,completely phased out,jerkish,and then all of a sudden,went all silent.
And now,she's in a relationship with a boy who influences her so much,that the language she uses is horrifying,pathetic,uncouth and utterly despicable.
Sad.
This girl was once a person i could actually talk to.
And today,i choose silence over making conversation with her.

What many women do not realize is,that it is fine to give your undivided attention to your man.
But please,ladies,set your standards a little high?
Why are you willing to change men like seasons ?
Why are you willing to change your lifestyle to such an extent that you start talking crassy.
Why can you just not find people who are bearable ?
If other people can't stand him,there must be a reason behind it. Why would you wanna change yourself for a man who cannot change for the world?

This doesn't only influence your lifestyle and living standards,but also your speech.
Please,for christ's sake,DO NOT become who you are with.
Men like it when you listen to them. And if they claim to like you (or love you) enough,they won't allow you to change yourself for the worse.
So please,hold on to who you are.
You are a unique individual. Do not emulate another human being.

Under the veil

"She masks her Pain,In a glorious Veil.
A veil so thick,nothing gets through it.

She wasn't always like this,
The girl i once knew.
She was chirpy,bright and always smiled.
Smiled so wide,it felt unrealistic,
To see someone so happy,
All the time!

She was always childish,is what people said.
Nothing would make her change,is what she said.
She meant it,when she said it.
But who knew,fate had other plans brewing.

She was hit by a storm,on a late summers eve.
The girl i once knew,didn't seem the same to me.
She changed slowly and then all at once.
It was a transformation,no one ever thought of.

'Did change have to knock at my doorstep this way',she yelled out loud.
'Did i deserve this pain',she bawled to the crowd.
She knew she'd never be the same.
She knew this was a big change.

She masked her pain,with a gorgeous smile.
A smile so fake,it stayed there for a while.
And while she kept convincing the world,
That "everything is alright,i'm fine!"
At night she'd lay in bed and cry.
It killed her day by day,inside.
She knew that she was living a lie.

She felt that this was just existence.
'A life worth living?' ,is what she questioned.
The girl who loved the rain once,
Hated the sight of the slightest drizzle.
And when her brave smile couldn't take it,
she sat under the shower and waited.
Waited for it to become audible enough,
So that no one outside could hear her bawl in pain.
The cold water gushed at her with ease.
Hitting her skin,not so gently.
She let the water hit her,
While she gasped for air.
And kept thinking over and over again.

"Did i do the right thing,by not giving up?"
"Did i do the wrong thing,by trying to live it up?"
Her mind and heart,were in constant battle.
And there her smile kept faking it a little longer.

This powerful veil,kept getting stronger.
Her sorrows and pains,weren't staying longer.
She longed to smile, and feel the rain.
But the veil was so powerful,it wouldn't fade away."


-Prateeksha Malik